"All the things you have are perfect, you don´t need to change anything you just need to understand how to use them so they become beneficial to you and to your journey towards self realisation if that’s where you are heading."
While you are waiting for the part 2 of happy ladies holiday...
When we start our spiritual practice I have noticed that we go through different stages. I have been observing people for 10 years in their journey to self-awareness and I have also gone through all of these stages.
Hope this can be to some help to all of you in the path of yoga and also to all the loved ones that are in the journey without choosing it. I really talk from my own experience and also from what I met in my fellow travellers and later on the ones I have showed the path to.
This is a great stage, probably the best one. Here we most likely feel things we never felt before. Many feel really alive for the first time. We are enjoying our body and starting to understand our body and mind. We are grateful to our teachers and mainly just humble to everything. It´s a state of falling in love.
Need to change
Next stage is when we start to see all our flaws and think we need to change them. I was very competitive when I was young. From competing in school to horses to dogs I would drive myself too hard so I would win.
If I was going to participate in a parlour game with friends or family I would not participate if I did not know I had a good chance of winning. I know it sounds ridiculous…
There’s a lot more I thought I needed to change. You also think that everybody around you doesn’t understand anything at all, your partner your friends. You might feel you need to change all of them to more understandable “enlightened” people.
This is a fun stage or not really. Now we have started to understand ourselves and have learned quite a lot about yoga and self-realization. From being humble and grateful to teachers for what we have learned now our spiritual ego is blooming. We start to question our teachers and we know better and can do better. I will quote Gandhi “Those who know how to think need no teachers” because I think it´s very important for self-reflection and understanding that everything you need is within you. Still our romance state is gone and it´s more our ego questioning then our true self. This is also a stage when we separate from people both friends and family.
This is not the last step but this might take some time until we reach this one and maybe you will be upset over my writing if you have not yet come to this one.
Lets start with questioning: what is Yoga? One translation from Sanskrit to English is Unite. So if we look at the previous stages are we uniting? Not really. We separate ourselves quite a lot from each other, instead of uniting to.
I had a friend that said I want to move and create a community that thinks like I do. This might be harsh but that’s exactly what Hitler wanted. He wanted to create a world with likeminded people. She did not of course have any violent behaviours and she wanted a peaceful place to live. But what is the difference? When you think you are better than others and you need to move away from society. Where is the uniting? When you need to change partners or friend because they don´t fit in to the format of your “new” life where is the uniting?
In this stage you understand that you know no more then others. All your flaws you found in stage two is a part of you and only there to support you if you use them right.
Lets take back my competitive side. If I did not have that struggle I would not get up 2-3 in the morning and do my 3h practice before my kids wake up. I probably would not even write this post. All the things you have are perfect, you don´t need to change anything you just need to understand how to use them so they become beneficial to you and to your journey towards self realisation if that’s where you are heading.
Love and be kind to yourself and to others as they are.